| by Don Cunningham
The martial arts are full of many self-proclaimed self defense
instructors. In some styles, self-defense training is a sideline aspect.
Many other schools specialize in teaching students to protect themselves
in modern day confrontations. There is certainly nothing wrong with
wanting to protect yourself or your property.
Most of the popular martial arts magazines are full of advertisements
using emotionally charged scare tactics to attract students. These
commercials often show an ordinary person being assaulted by one or more
hoodlums. The bad guys are often armed with knives or chains. In some
cases, the person attacked is depicted as successfully fighting back,
while others imply dire circumstances for the untrained individual.
Such rhetoric is not limited to the print media, either. For example,
the following is is an actual quote from an Internet website devoted to
self-defense:
"The attitude of martialism [sic] is predicated on
the idea that society is full of predators. These predators can and will
injure and violate you to take from you that which they have not
earned."
"Some of society’s predators covet your
property. Some desire your body. Some simply hate you for being you. All
will use violence against you (or they would not be predators)."
"In a world of 'martial' artists who support gun
control, consultants who preach the Gospel of Victimization, and complex
or even silly fighting systems with no relevance to today's world, many
individuals come to the conclusion that to fight fairly is to be
more vulnerable to defeat. All self-defense involves risk. The
martialist [sic] understands that to take every advantage possible is to
hedge his or her bets -- to better the odds of success in the face of an
attack."
Such unsubtle appeals are reminiscent of the old bodybuilder
advertisements, where the stereotypical bully kicks sand in the face of
the 90-pound weakling before walking off with his beautiful girlfriend.
After purchasing the program, of course, the former 90-pound weakling is
almost instantly transformed into a bodybuilder and later seeks revenge
against his tormentor to win back the girl.
Such emotionally charged tactics appeal to our innermost fears and
insecurities. We all want to believe that if we just use a certain
brand, we'll be more attractive or more successful. Marketing
specialists understand this and use it to promote their products all the
time. It works for everything from cologne, deodorants, even to
breakfast cereals.
People sign up for martial arts classes for many very different
reasons. It might be for sports and competition. It might be an interest
in the historical aspects or the opportunity to learn oriental
traditions. Some simply want a good physical workout. Many are seeking a
practical form of unarmed self-defense, often based on such. When
examining the facts, though, the premise that predators lurk everywhere
and we are all subject to constant dangers really has no basis in
reality.
"Society is full of predators..." On what facts does the
author base this assumption? Most would point to media reports, stories
related by other victims, or even personal experiences. Yet, this is
anecdotal evidence at best and has no scientific or logical validity.
The media is full of such horror stories because they sell. People
apparently like to hear about such incidents. Whenever words with strong
connotations like "murder," "rape," or
"sex" are in the headlines, newspaper street sales increase
dramatically.
The more bizarre the news, the more popular it appears to be.
Readership surveys repeatedly show legitimate news magazines like Time
or Newsweek are the most popular. Yet, emotionally charged
magazines such as The National Enquirer and World Globe
actually have higher readership based on subscription rates.
Of course there really are predators within our society. Certainly
they exist. One should be prudent and take reasonable precautions. The
point, though, is what is prudent and reasonable? How much should one be
concerned?
Whenever an airplane crashes, the news is full how many passengers
were injured or killed. A few people might take such news accounts to
heart and refuse to ever fly on any airline. Yet, the news would be
pretty boring if it was just about how many thousands of flights arrived
safely at their destinations. It’s not reasonable to completely avoid
traveling by airline just because some tragic incidents do occur and
dominate the headlines.
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To be constantly concerned that you might be a
victim at any moment based on anecdotal evidence or such flagrant
emotionally charged scare tactics is just as unreasonable as refusing to
fly because you heard about a plane crash. Most of us actually have a much
greater chance of being maimed or killed by a drunk driver than becoming
the victim of a violent assault. Becoming paranoid is not a reasonable
response.
Even more frightening than the use of such scare tactics to create
hysteria are the responses many of these so-called self-defense experts
recommend. Most students assume their martial arts instructor is
experienced and will provide them with good solid information. Yet,
following their advice may easily result in their followers sitting on the
wrong side of a courtroom. Many so-called self-defense experts are
actually encouraging illegal actions, often without realizing the full
ramifications of their ill advice.
Some rationalize their responses with a false moral imperative, even
recommending their students take the initiative if necessary to prevent a
potential assault. In other words, "a good attack is the best
possible defense" or "you have the moral right to respond
violently to any perceived threat."
For example, the following recommendation about how to defuse a verbal
confrontation was recently posted in an online forum by an author and
expert on self-defense tactics:
"One way that I have used with success is to say,
'Listen, I don't want to fight you. If we fight, best case scenario we
both go to jail. I don't want to go to jail, do you?'"
"If he says he doesn't care or anything other than a
negative, hit him. He has just verbally signaled his intentions to fight.
If he says no, move on."
"Say, 'Listen, I have apologized (been civil, didn't
do anything wrong, offered you the chair, whatever) and as far as I am
concerned it's over. Is that cool?'"
"If he answers anything other than 'Yes, its cool,'
hit him. You have made every effort to verbally de-escalate and he has
shown every indication to become physical."
Although the attempt to come to some mutual agreement is valid and
worthy of merit in such situations, the response of striking your opponent
just because they disagree is likely to result in a free ride to jail. No
one has the legal right to strike another person in anticipation of an
assault. Witnesses are likely to report who struck first, and in most
cases, that can result in both criminal and civil liability.
As social creatures, we create and maintain intricate networks
consisting of family, friends, peers, and even strangers. To maintain such
complex relationships, basic unwritten rules of conduct are generally
accepted. Although these social contracts are not legally binding, people
act in accordance to these guidelines for the most part and usually behave
in an acceptable and expected manner.
The real problem arises when someone violates our expectations and
behaves abnormally. Our unwritten rules of conduct are often inadequate.
They do not offer clear direction for responding, especially if the
behavior is aggressive and we feel threatened or are even actually injured
as a result of such unexpected actions.
In such cases, most rely on our written codes, the laws enacted to
define acceptable and expected behavior within our respective societies.
If assaulted or threatened with imminent attack, most states allow the use
of "reasonable force," that is, a response which is not
excessive and is appropriate to protect oneself or one's property. Any
person is justified to respond with reasonable force and is not criminally
liable, according to most legal statutes.
On the other hand, a person, even if defending themselves or their
property, may be held accountable for using "excessive force,"
that is, any response considered beyond the need and circumstances of the
particular event or which is not justified in the light of all the
circumstances.
To suggest any individual has the moral authority to defy society’s
unwritten rules of conduct or written codes is irresponsible. Who
determines what moral authority is in this case? |